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Tony Robbins

Change your focus
Change your physiology

Set standards - convert should to must
Expand limiting beliefs
Take action
Be tough n believe when u fail.
Give more than what u expect

In sakal

Intellect, Mind, Body and World

There are grossly three main parts of us - Intellect (brain) Mind (Mann) and body. Then there is an external world. If you purely listen to your brain, you are less likely to be unhappy. Mind creates desires. Some of them are satisfied by the external world and some are not. The unfulfilled desires lead to unhappiness. Also when one desire is satisfied, you become neutralized for that desire. e g as a kid you crave for two wheeler like anything and when desire is satisfied, after some days it just remains as a vehicle for you. You did not get continuous happiness out of that.

It is extremely important for your intellect to have control on your mind and body. Use body as a vehicle. Ensure maintenance and petrol fuel. But treat it as your slave and you don't become slave of your body. Mind creates desires. All of them are not granted by the world. There is constant struggle between mind and world. This reduces the energy level of the person. e g after 8 hours work you feel tired. If you actually calculate the time and efforts spent - physically and mentally on the task, then you will realize that you cannot justify the tiredness. Still you are tired. That is because of the struggle between your mind and the world. Your mind wants something, world behave differently. You have no control over the world. But you can control your mind. The energy wasted in the struggle between the world and the mind can be used by intellect to do proper act. If you use that energy in working/action instead of struggling, you will be more productive. Desires are endless. Your intellect should control them to ensure higher productivity and efficiency.
( Learning from Mr Parathasarthy )

Identity 3 rd Stage Phenomenon

The population of pune is around 50,00,000 (5 million). I am one of them. The population of Mumbai is around 200,00,000 (20 million). Who am I in this huge population. What is my identity? 5 million people make their living. Some earn less. Some earn more. People do job, buy flat, marry, raise kids. Everyone among 5 million probably does that. Then what is it that differentiates you from the rest? In other words what is your identity.

Thought a lot on it. I think people in India live their life in 3 stages.
1) Get well equipped
2) Make your living
3) Create your identity

In the first stage there is fierce competition in education to reach the top. Get a better degree. Perform well. Find a good job.

In the second stage, people buy flat, marry, raise kids and have a good married life.

In the third stage, people try to do something which is beyond their self and try to create an identity for themselves in the world full of commodities.

There is so much competition in the first stage that kids are over pressurized for the competitive performance. Each one gets equipped with his/her own set of education, training, experience, course and projects.

In the second stage, we get jobs. It is so difficult to get job if you are not among the so called extra ordinary people. One of my friends supposedly paid 8 lac (0.8 million) to get a job of 15000 per month. He poured in all of the retirement savings of his father. Somehow you get job. Then we strive hard to make our living. Get so called well settled in life. The struggle increases as time passes and you get better positions with better salaries in your job. There is hardly any identity outside your job and your family. Then you have to support your kid going through stage 1 of the process. Many people get old in crossing this 2nd stage.

The third stage remains unaddressed throughout the first 2 stages. The challenges and demands of first 2 stages hardly allow you to devote any time to put some active efforts for the stage 3. There are some people in society who had not had any access to education and other facilities. So they directly started searching for their identity, creating their identity and in the process they became hugely successful. We hear many such stories about such people - severe poverty to super rich transition. Further there are some people who directly enter 3 rd stage after crossing 1st stage e g Obama, Dr Abhay Bang etc. These people also succeed in creating their identity.

So my hypothesis in short is that earlier we target the third stage, more are the chances of succeeding in it. We need to start thinking beyond ourselves in the earlier stages of life. Earlier we do that better are the chances of creating an 'Identity' in the society.

Attitude

Having the correct attitude is a key to the success. No matter what you do, what your sector is, what your profile is, if you have a positive mental attitude (PMA ), you are more likely to succeed. The PMA as explained by Professor Osborne contributes a lot to the success of the accomplished individuals. Faith and spirituality nurture confidence and attitude.

Doubt weakens confidence which affects attitude. Constant use of brain over heart dilutes the enthusiasm which sometimes results in lack of interest and joy in the work. In my view, if we follow our heart we can be very enthusiastic about what we are doing which helps with maintaining a PMA. If you are doing what you like and what you have passion for, then work does not remain work but it becomes your favorite activity. The chances of success would be exponentially high in such work. Following your heart also keeps you happy which improves your attitude and confidence. There is constantly a difference between one's real self and one's ideal self. The whole struggle is to travel from real to ideal, from a commodity to a differentiation. In the end what matters is how you feel about yourself and how happy you are !!!

Simple Mantra

Don't complain. Don't regret. Don't expect.
Do the right work. Enjoy the fruits.
Say YES to the life !!! :)